4 Ways To Survive The Holidays With A Dysfunctional Family

4 Ways To Survive The Holidays With A Dysfunctional Family

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Learn 4 effective strategies to help you survive the holiday season with a dysfunctional family.

Family can make or break the holiday season.

When it comes to family, there are so many extremes. While some families exude love and warmness, others cause chaos and distress. 

One of my favorite spiritual teachers, Ram Dass put it perfectly:

“If you think you are enlightened, go and spend a week with your family.”

So true, right?! But here’s the thing: being with your family doesn’t need to be painful.

Dysfunctional or not, it’s possible to have a pleasant holiday with your family while protecting your peace of mind. You always have the option to NOT feed the dysfunction!

By healing your wounds around family, creating balance, and learning coping mechanisms, your holidays can turn from one of pain to pure bliss.

If you’re ready to turn your negative interactions with family members around, I created this video for you!

Here’s what you’ll learn:

💥 My top 4 tips on how to survive the holidays when you have a dysfunctional family.

💥 Tapping into your heart + intuition to see what’s best for you.

💥 What to do when you feel triggered.

💥 How to have compassion for your family while setting firm boundaries.

💥 Why you should shed any guilt and shame you have around family.

Once you watch the video, let me know in the comments below:

Do you dread the holidays with family?

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With deep love and gratitude;

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I’m a life coach, spiritual teacher, and former clinician. My life’s work is to help accelerate your spiritual awakening so you can heal your past, overcome any challenge, and live with joy and purpose. If you need help in navigating your spiritual awakening, I recommend that you check out my popular free guided meditations.

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  • Thank you so much Dear Christina
    I love hearing and watching your videos
    They are so helpful you are an ANGEL
    I wish you a merry Christmas and the most beautiful new year you have had
    Come and visit us in Paris. You are my guest
    Best regards

  • Perfect Timing! Thanks, Christina. ❤💚❤
    I’m currently visiting my Mom in Virginia. I’ve done the work…however, I’ve noticed occasional comments still sting. I needed the 3rd Chakra reminder, especially. 💛🌼🍌🍋

  • You brought back the memories of the family gatherings that wee nothing but pain. My parents have long since gone, but occasionally a brother will remind me of those “good old days”. We can now laugh. We even imitate the phrases that were used in the shaming, and manipulations.

    You mention the third and fourth chakras is wonderful, as that is where I have been doing a lot of work and succeeding. I have learned to have compassion and no longer even attempt to control others. It is very liberating. “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink.”

    • Amanda – Team Christina December 15, 2021 at 4:23 am

      Hi Joanne, I’m so happy you enjoyed this video!! ❤

    • Dear Joanne!

      What a fantastic and rewarding way you have walked with your brother!! … After a long way in life, interrupted by woundmakings and silences, my (only) sister and I, now have started a better one too. Like Christina teaches – working on your Chakras (especially the third and four ones) leads to making healthier boundaries!! And some laughs together definitely help you to ‘overlook’ wounds from your childhood too!

      🙏❤️ 🎆

  • Love, love, love your laugh… and your ding dings

  • Wow! Thank you so much for this video Christina!!
    Tip #1 is directly for me, for years I have been tricked into spending time with my family even though I knew in my heart that I didn’t want to but believes and guilty drip has been thrown at me. But from last year I made a decision to excuse myself from spending holidays with them, with guilt and shame following me all the time…. But after this video I’m finally free of these feelings and I’m going to work on tip # 2 & 3 for healing and restoring my peace and power!!! Thank you!!!

  • Thank you Christina! It is very helpful , I guess for whatever family gatherings. I just got home for Christmas actually , after long time and I know there is lot things to still learn and understand around healing even removing yourself from situations etc but what to do if there is constant criticism and correction to my actions if all I want is help or just simply be present and do things together with family and there is this constant controlling even thought there is on other side like we missed /we love you but actions and words are opposite. I am trying to do my best and sometimes don’t do nothing at all to don’t offer them but it’s hard because I wish we could respect each other , really listen and trying to avoid the details and enjoy more our presence together. So not sure if one of my triggers are that criticism I am getting or just don’t know how to work with that? Thank you for reading it . Sending you lot of love and blessings to you Christina and to your team, Happy Holidays

  • Thank you so much Christina and team 💞

  • Christina, I cannot thank you enough for this video. I dread the holidays and It surely is not the most wonderful time of the year. I am so tired of guilt and being torn and being shamed and everything that you said it’s like my life! This has helped me so much! And the chakras. You inspired me Christina.

  • I find most holidays laden with hypocrisy. Xmas is heavy with consumerism on full assault mode ready to pounce at every corner, worse is that many are brainwashed to reinforce it.
    Thank giving: while completely abusing and ignoring the Natives. No thanks to that.
    Halloween b was it supposed to be spiritual honoring the dead and ancestors? It’s turned into a spook fest.
    Since I can’t whole heartedly feel genuine at any of those things, I just refuse to participate.
    Family? They’ve disintegrated on their own.
    Instead, I’ve decided to create my own life as I see fit from the ground up. I have my chosen peers, which feels more authentic.

  • Larry Inn, SD. (Soul Doctor) December 19, 2021 at 11:48 pm

    Soulidarity with all. If you heal your wounds (injury to your Soul) will you be immune from future injuries?

    The Soul would see no Rainbow, if the Eyes had no Tears.

    • Amanda – Team Christina January 4, 2022 at 5:33 pm

      Hi Larry! Thanks for reaching out- Christina is not able to offer specific guidance through the comments, but I will pass along your question for a future video topic! ❤❤


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