How to Let Go of the Past by Using this One KEY Skill

How to Let Go of the Past by Using this One KEY Skill

How to Let Go of the Past by Using this One KEY Skill 1920 1080 Christina Lopes

Many of us spend years trying to figure out how to let go of the past. And sometimes, spiritual teachers don’t help because they present the concept of “letting go” as something easy.

“Just let it go,” says the guru.

Yet for so many of us, letting go seems like a herculean effort.

This has been true in my own life and also in the lives of hundreds of clients. And over the years, I’ve come to understand why.

The truth is, you can’t simply let go of the past without first mastering one key skill.

And no matter how hard you try, the past will keep haunting you, as long as you’re focused only on the “letting go” part.

But there’s more. Society has placed such a strong emphasis on letting go that we have all actually convinced ourselves that we have let go, when in fact, we haven’t at all.

For example, of the hundreds of clients that I’ve worked with over the years, about 90% of them repeat some variation of this statement when they start working with me:

“Oh the past? Yeah, I’ve let all that go already.”

I smile and let it slide because I can read the person’s energy and I know my clients aren’t intentionally lying about this. They honestly do believe they have let the past go. But then, as we start working together, we hit the old wounds.

And that’s when they see it.

That’s when they realize that what they thought was taken care of or resolved was in fact, still lingering and infesting their whole lives.

And if this is true in your own life, you’re gonna love this week’s video.

By the end of this video, you’ll know exactly what needs to be done first, before you can genuinely let go of anything.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

  1. Why “letting go” is hard for so many of us.
  2. The one key skill you must master before you can let go of anything.
  3. My 4-step process to healing the past that makes “letting go” easy.

Here’s the audio version of this video:


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I’m a life coach, healer, spiritual teacher, and former clinician. My life’s work is to help you open your incredible heart, heal your past, and live with joy and purpose. Aside from my weekly video content, I also work 1-on-1 with people who need private individual guidance. If this is you, the fastest way to get help is to book a single session with me.


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  • #askchristina I am trying to let go of childhood sexual trauma followed years later by mental, physical and sexual abuse at the hands of my children’s father and years after that enjoying then loosing my twin flame.
    I intend on following your steps through to forgiveness but I am a little hesitant to endure all the pain that all this has brought me #pleasehelp.

  • Thanks Christina,I was blessed by your video, you are such an inspiration I was wondering about a traumatic experience I had as a baby but have no memory of the event just that something very bad happened, how do i approach it , love David.

  • Enlightening video as usual, grateful thanks!
    This video echoes the previous one that explains that going through the healing process makes us become healers…
    Krishnamurti wrote that if we feel fear, we must “become” the fear and as a consequence we’ll get “through” it. The same applies to sorrow.
    As regards letting go, you’re right. We must face the pain, feel it deeply. But for some of us this step could be risky and they would get lost in the details of the past, so I’d recommend those very sensitive people to feel surrounded during this process. Surrounded would mean letting some trusted one(s) know we’re undergoing a healing process and that, if we need a presence, those trusted one(s) could be around, not necessarily talking, but acknowledging that something big is happening for a greater good.

    As regards healing, you mention raising the energy level, and that needs to be commented, too, maybe in another video… we often hear this but are not given the keys! Raising the energy level is the result of a work, it doesn’t come out of the blue simply because we have decided it.

    Thank you so much for your human qualities in sharing, you’re showing the way with so much compassion and understanding!

  • Thank you Christina. This greatly resignated with me. The tears that we’re stuffed away in a section of my mind called the “let it go” pile, began releasing midway through your video. My ego convinced me that I let all of these childhood tramas go, but I’ve noticed that every now and again I get triggered and I’m surprised that these mental images pop up. Then I tell myself, “oh c’mon how long are you going to hold on to this…just let it go already”. #askchristina
    So the things that keep coming up for me is my lack of trust in men (childhood #metoo stuff) and fear of intimacy and co-dependant relationships. So the solution has been to limit my interactions with anyone who even smells a little narcissistic and let go of everyone in my life who drags me down. So I’ve disconnect from the majority of my family and I’ve widdled down to just a few amazing friends. My ego and I have learned to use humor to deflect and turn the dark moments into a mental sitcom to ease my sadness and loneliness. But clearly this is not a healing solution. Are you saying that if I can sit with myself and revisit the tramas and cry it out, I’ll finally be able to flush these tramas away once and for all? Is part of the healing process to completely clean out the junky folk? How do I release the guilt of wanting nothing to do with toxic family members? How can one recognize the difference between isolation and taking a ton of alone time? Am I avoiding my family or did I make the decision to unplug from the toxicity? Too many questions for one video?
    Thank you again for sharing your experience and wisdom.

  • Dear Christina, Thank you so so much for sharing your knowledge and insights and for imparting your wonderful healing techniques.
    My question: Being an empath and highly sensitive, I am definitely struggling with the letting go and forgiving of my past. I have recently been seriously considering participating in Ayuasca ceremonies in order to get some deep down answers and healing. I understand from your video that this would only be the beginning of the process, and in fact I take after my mother- the very one that I need to forgive- because I know what a difficult past she has had. She too is highly sensitive and I’m finding this whole situation very confusing.. as if I’m running around trying to catch my own tail. What would you suggest?
    Many thanks, Mimi


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