How to Deal with Guilt and Shame in 7 Simple Steps

How to Deal with Guilt and Shame in 7 Simple Steps

How to Deal with Guilt and Shame in 7 Simple Steps 1920 1080 Christina Lopes

Learning how to deal with guilt and shame is no easy task for many of us. But there is a way to heal from these very toxic emotions and finally release the grip they have held in your life for years.

All emotions should be honored and accepted when they pop up. The worst you can do is deny an emotion or repress it. When emotions circulate naturally in our bodies, they tend to be transient: showing up quickly and disappearing into the sunset without leaving a trace.

But for so many of us, holding on to emotions is what we’ve learned. We haven’t yet mastered the whole art of “letting them circulate.” And this is where things get toxic.

You see, if you hold on to or perpetuate certain emotions, they can end up killing you.

I hear so many stories from people all over the world, who tell me they feel deep guilt or shame about something that happened in their past. And many times, they’re holding on to these emotions almost as a form of punishment for something they did “wrong.”

But that must end today Beautiful Soul! Your days of holding onto these two emotions is over and now is the time to heal.

Guilt and shame are two of the most toxic emotions to perpetuate because they are extremely “dense”: their vibration is super low. And when you ask your body to hold onto low vibration energy…you’re asking for trouble.

In this week’s video, I help you deal with guilt and shame by sharing a simple 7-step process that works like a charm.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

  1. The top reason guilt and shame are stuck in your body
  2. The powerful affirmations I used to heal guilt and shame in my own life.
  3. How to “implant love” in an old memory and literally rewrite the past.
  4. The role your brain plays in perpetuating guilt and shame.

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  • Hello Christina,

    Wow wow wow. Just finished seeing this video on YouTube and it totally resonated with me. My partner of 41 years passed away June of last year. My twin flame without question. My guilt and shame over things i said to him practically crippled me on every level. But that was then and the person i was is gone. In rewinding the tape i see the old me beaten down by events and circumstances i had no control over. These seven steps make utter sense. You are a bessing, Thank you!

  • Consuelo Valenzuela May 5, 2019 at 6:52 am

    #askchristina does this help with sexual abuse?

  • #askchristina
    Hello, dear Christina. It us wrong if I wish my children be close of us the parents? I have 4 beautiful children, and 3 of them work in Germany. We, the rest of family leave in Ronania. I have a job just because I have to survive, meaning I dont’t love it. I am 56 years old, and I still fell stuck. I want to have enough money ti help them to make their own families here. Is that an unhealthy attachment?

  • How to Deal with Guilt and Shame in 7 Simple Steps


    Dear Christian & Team;
    watching your a.m. tutorial I untalking
    about guilt & shame as having done not good
    actions active the other day/s.

    In my childhood my parents made me responsible that
    they ( both ) could not live their ways of life they wanted
    to have.

    They would utter e.g. ” Due to your birth
    you are should not are guilty that I could / can not
    get divorced from your father.”
    [ My father has beaten my mother – i saw it with
    my own eyes; my mother had sex with my father
    allthough she did not want to – i heard this with
    my own ears.)

    So I am very much interested to learn how to get
    rid of this guilt and shame was was poured out
    on me ( passive ).

    Looking forward to hearing from you

    Keep on with your good / helpfull work.

    Warm hearted regards

    north light

  • This is the second time I’ve listened to this one, and I will go back for a third. Christina, your teachings are always wonderful and I thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. Moving forward into a new Age and a new year. Change is upon us all and your teachings are a perfect place to start. Blessings!

  • Thanks so very much, Christina! I’m orthodox believing Catholic with a BS in Psychology, so lots of what you said really resonated with me!!! I appreciate the clinical neurological insights, too, as well as similar procedures we do in Catholicism like burning symbolically past sins after the Sacrament of Reconciliation on retreats! Thank you for going where you’ve gone in order to try to heal people, which also is an ambition propounded by Our Lord!


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