Is your mind as busy as mine used to be?
“You’re not good enough.”
“You need to push harder and do more.”
“You’re a complete failure.”
“Everyone leaves you.”
These were some of the routine thoughts going on in my head for the better part of 30 years. My inner critic, whom I affectionately called “The Little Devil On My Shoulder” in my first book, was pretty relentless.
The most painful part was that this inner critic went undetected for so many years and I wasn’t aware of how damaging the voice was.
I wasn’t aware of how horribly I treated my beautiful, tender, and glorious self.
Try this exercise that I use frequently with my coaching clients.
1. Take a deep breath and think of a few things your mind says to you on a daily basis. Are they positive or negative?
2. If they’re positive, congratulations! You’ve done an amazing job at quieting your critical ego and I really want to know how you did it (seriously, I do. So comment below.)
3. But if the voice in your head tends to say negative things, ask yourself this:
Would I ever say these things out loud to a dear friend?
For me, I would have never directed any of my mind chatter to a dear friend. How horrible would it be to tell a friend “You’re just not good enough.”
Yet, we say these things to ourselves every single day. The inner critic rarely stops, especially when we’re unaware of its negative voice.
But here’s the kicker:
If you would never say horrible things to a dear friend, why do you say them to yourself?
Is your dear friend more valuable and worthy than YOU?
If your immediate answer to this question is not a resounding NO then read this carefully:
I love you. Source loves you. You’re valuable and loved beyond anything you know. Your beautiful heart is worthy of all the happiness in the world.
Let my words to you sink in. Breathe them in because I’m sending them with a lot of love.
And now let’s get to more practical advice, which I share in this week’s video.
How can we quiet a mind that never stops, especially when the chatter is negative and demeaning?
In this video, I share:
1. A simple 3-step process to quiet the inner critic.
2. The one key belief that keeps the voice of the inner critic alive.
3. One of my favorite inner critic healing mantras that I use every day.
Once you see this one foundational belief and let it go, the inner critic disappears altogether.