How To Control Your Emotions BEFORE They Destroy Your Life

How To Control Your Emotions BEFORE They Destroy Your Life

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Remember that time you reacted angrily against a loved one and ended up saying some really hurtful things?

You weren’t thinking straight and sh*t came out of your mouth faster than the speed of light. You just didn’t know how to control your emotions at that very moment.

You tried to patch things up by saying “sorry” but the damage was already done. The relationship was never quite the same after that.

How to control your emotions

Boy, do I know how you feel.

We’ve ALL been there: emotionally immature and unable to think before we speak. And emotional immaturity can have horrible repercussions in our lives, relationships, and careers.

Here’s the honest truth that so many of us ignore:

The vast majority of adults on this planet are emotionally immature.

I was 35 freakin years old before I began to understand that my emotional reactions were hurtful to myself and others. And it took me years– and a lot of trial and error– before I could call myself an “emotional adult”.

Hell, I still struggle to manage some emotions today!

So if you’re on the same boat– struggling to control your emotions– this week’s video is for you.

There’s lots of advice and content out there about emotional control but it’s usually focused on the psychology of emotional control. But in this video, I go much deeper than psychology, bringing you a spiritual perspective on emotions that can help you gain emotional maturity more quickly.

Here’s what we cover in this video:

1. What does “emotional control” mean?

2. The spiritual perspective on emotions and how to work with them.

3. The 3 levels of emotional maturity so you can know right away which level you’re at.

4. Three simple tips to help you get from the lowest level of emotional maturity to the highest.

Here’s the audio version of this video:

This video will help you reach high levels of emotional maturity and in the process, live a more peaceful and joyful life.

When you reach a state of emotional mastery, your life and relationships all change for the better.


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With deep love and gratitude;

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I’m a life coach, healer, spiritual teacher, and former clinician. My life’s work is to help you open your incredible heart, heal your past, and live with joy and purpose. Aside from my weekly video content, I also work 1-on-1 with people who need private individual guidance. If this is you, the fastest way to get help is to book a single session with me.


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  • Awesome video Christina – always well put together and digestible. I will definitely be using the execise to bring emotions from the belly to the heart to transform negative emotions for sure!

  • I’m definitely a zig-zagger! This video was very helpful. Thank you Christina. ❤️

  • I am a zig zagger as well… it’s when I react to what has happened without allowing a gap…. a gap in which we notice wha5 has happened and then choose not react or react skilfully. I grew up surrounded by emotionally immature adults who could not recognise their own emotions let alone support my emotional states. I love the way you explain that emotions are just moving energy in our bodies.
    Often I ask emotionally immature people “ what happened “ just then …. when you got up and shouted at me as an example…often the reply is you just pissed me off as usual. Trying to regulate others is a fools errand …It is just easier to spend a little time with these people as possible or cut them out if your life altogether.
    I wonder if you have any techniques for bringing an emotional immature person into recognising their state.

  • Hi Christina, i love your video on How to control your emotions before they ruin your life. Can you elaborate on your tip, where you explain to move negative energy to your heart and change it into love: love for what? Love for the person who just poked to my old wounds, love for me, love for others? This probably depends on a situation. I would love to hear couple scenarios from you. Thank you. With love.

    • Amanda – Team Christina October 7, 2020 at 9:11 pm

      Thank you for sharing, Gabi! We’ll keep your question in mind for a future video on the topic 😊 Sending you love ❤

  • All I can say is that, I Love you!

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