The Ego Is NOT Your Enemy. Here’s Why.

The Ego Is NOT Your Enemy. Here’s Why.

The Ego Is NOT Your Enemy. Here’s Why. 1920 1080 Christina Lopes

Many teachers consider the ego a major barrier to spiritual evolution. But thanks to an Ayahuasca ceremony years ago, I’ve come to see things differently.

I struggled with my ego for years and at one point, started calling it the “little devil on my shoulder”. That’s how demeaning and dark my ego was.

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So when I started my spiritual awakening, I just wanted my ego to die or shut the hell up.

I viewed it as an enemy and a negative force to transcend on the spiritual path.

And I know that feeling of animosity against the ego is very common for those of us awakening to the spiritual path.

Here’s a question I got from a viewer on this very topic:

“I’m tired of battling with my ego. How do I win this war?”

In this week’s video, I answer this question in depth and give you a completely different way of looking at your ego.

First, I define ego, so we’re all on the page as to its meaning.

Then, I answer this viewer’s question in depth by sharing a story of revelation about the ego that I received during a plant medicine ceremony.

While many teachers use the acronym “Edging God Out” for the ego, I came to see it as God’s Grace in some points in our lives. And I now believe that fighting the ego is not only unloving toward yourself, but it also creates a deep sense of separation (disintegration) from Divine Consciousness.

Well, that “fighting” energy ends today.

In this video, I’ll show you how to view your ego in a more loving way and as a consequence, you’ll never have issues with it ever again.

Here’s the audio version of this video:


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  • Hi Christina,

    Thank you for this particular video. I would be interested in knowing more specifically how the ego protects. I understood you to say that it does, but what was missing for me was the how. Maybe it’s just me. 🙂


    • As I said in the video, the ego “protects” by creating an identity of separation from the outside world. It’s an illusion of course, but the child doesn’t know this at the time so the ego gives this sensation that I am separate and can, therefore, create a boundary (again, an illusion) from the outside. In my case, I remember that once my physical boundaries were violated, my consciousness within far into the psyche. And I remember thinking: in here, no one can get to me. You see?

  • I had a very simular experience with the birth lf my ego as well!
    And not until i saw this 14 years later, after an ayuaska cermemony in Peru in 2002,did i understnad what it was indeed all about.
    It was horrific actually..4 years old, in the shower with my adopted dad…. adopted mom watching.
    Thanks for sharing
    I am calling the integration of ego and inner child suffering, with the adult self a kind of dissolving into each other.
    Like a good cup of coffee… with cream and sugar…..
    i am waking up and am quite sure i need more support than ever…
    I absolutley agree with you and your spiritual views…
    i hope lne day to share more lf my experiences with you..l there are many…
    Last monthI in a dream I was visited by my shamanic friend after all those years… He said i have the key now….
    and then today you sent me this video.

  • Thank you for the info on EGO. ..mine has bn built from continual hurts and disappointments over a life time (( I am almost 50)) And SHE HATES a lot , I call her THAT C— A– B—- that hates ,,when there is the most minnute thing that someone else should of done or should take responsibility for She goes 100% thru the roof with HATRED& ANGER . I found my TWIN FLAME. He is a great guy. So why can’t she stop having hate ((negative thoughts)) towards him ? I know SHE is only trying to Protect ME …but SHE duznt need to in this case . I have bn working on me. But WITHDRAWAL. And isolation and being completely silent and alone ,is the only way to PREVENT her from saying mean ugly things . withdrawal doesn’t work. I mean days at a time! I lock her away when she withdraws.What is the right way to get thru to her??? She as my guardian. And I as my heart felt loving giving natured self. Stay in inner-turmoil . I say when she is in control to try to explain that, “its her ,not me “.HELP!!!

    • You’re still identified with ego and that causes issues. Your mind can be thinking negative thoughts and you can just observe them and move on, can’t you? Remember that the strength of the ego has a lot to do with whether you (the observer) identifies with and gets sucked into the chatter.

  • Thank you for sharing so much wisdom. I have been reading E. Tolle (and others) for so many years and you truly add for me a new and feminine touch to it.

    Grtz Ilse

  • ACIM teaches the ego is born in the body not in the Soul. It was created in the body as a monument to thoughts of separation. It teaches what opposes God alone is true. By embracing the ego you are assuming you can straddle dark and the Light. In every moment our job is to silence the ego and embrace the God-mind. Any effort to embrace ego is to embrace darkness. Please don’t let the ego convince you it is benevolent in any way. It is the insane mind and should NEVER be enjoined.

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